Dos And Don'ts
Do share with your child:
There's nothing more likely to strengthen the bond between you and your child than to share something special with him or her. For instance, if you have just opened a package of snack cookies and your child asks for one, make it a time of sharing. Too many times I have seen a parent tell their child that they cannot have any of Mommy's snack. Train your child to share by sharing with your child.
Don't sleep with your child:
If the child wakes up crying in the night you should promptly attend to his or her needs. Whatever the problem may be, the reason they are crying is because they wanted your presence. It is too easy to take the child to bed with yourself and fall back to sleep together. But, that starts a bad habit that is not healthy for either of you.
Do touch your child often:
If the child needs you in the middle of the night be sure to stay by his or her side until they feel safe or fall asleep, then you return to your bed.
If it is the week-end and your child comes running into your bedroom for hugs and kisses, that's a good time to cuddle in the bed.
It's sad, but many children go through day after day without being held or hugged. From the day your child is born he or she should know the warmth and comfort of a hug from Dad and Mom
Don't ignore your child:
If your child is excitedly trying to tell you something and you're busy doing something else, stop, bend down, and find out what is so interesting to the child. If you do this often you child will feel important in your life and continue to share the exciting things that happen in his or hers.
Don't yell at your child:
If you ignore your child's exciting moments you will soon find that they are no longer shared with you and your child will feel less important in this world.
If you are outside and having fun, that's a good time to raise your voice and shout. If you are frustrated with your child's behavior, that's NOT the time to raise your voice. That's the time to think about applying the sound principles of child-raising.
Do play on the floor:
Yelling at a child only causes the child to lose respect for you as well as learning to do the same thing in return.
Take time, often, to get down on the level of your child's world and play games. Rolling a ball back and forth is an excellent way to spend time with your child. Building blocks, doll houses, etc. are all important to your child.
Don't spend enormous amounts of money on toys:
Your child needs the comfort of knowing that his or her world is as important to you.
There are many toys available that make sounds and move around. These kinds of toys generally cost several dollars more than the simple toys. If you are going to spend money on toys, purchase toys that interact with your child.
Do read to your child:
Children love to hear stories. If you can make up stories on a daily basis your children will be begging to hear the next episode. If you can't come up with your own stories, go to the thrift store or Goodwill and purchase lots of books which you can read to your child.